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My Life Parenting Diaries Pregnancy, Children, & Parenthood

Parenting Diaries #1

Parenting encompasses a lot. Sometimes there are moments I think about that I want to document, but they’re super specific to me. So I’m introducing a new type of posting: parenting diaries. This will come and go. It’s not meant to be consistent.

So for my first entry, let me just say seeing your child sick is hard. My daughter is two now. And all the times I’ve been sick or my household has gotten sick in 2022, my baby wasn’t too bad. She maybe had one day of sleeping but her temperament was the same, She was just coughing or sneezing more.

This time, she got sick, like sick, sick.

She was coughing and had a runny nose. She slept a lot. She barely spoke and wanted to be held all day. She was lethargic, out of it, and breathing out of her mouth, with a temperature, not high enough to take her to the hospital according to google, but definitely higher than her normal.

In the middle of the night, she had trouble sleeping, staying asleep for thirty minutes or so at a time, because she was so congested. She cried when we would suck the mucus out of her nose. She cried when we forced her take take medicine. She wouldn’t eat. She was weak from the lack of nutrients. It was truly heartbreaking.

Seeing her sick was hard. Even though two year olds are young, they have personality and it was clear she wasn’t feeling well because she wasn’t acting like herself. It sucks when you know there’s nothing you can do to make them feel better.

We tried medicine, which at some point she just spit out. We used the steam from a hot shower, had the humidifier around her 24/7, used nasal spray, and gave her ice chips and pedialyte. Crushed ice she liked; the pedialyte she spit out. Recovery takes rest and time. It took three days for the temperature to go away. She’s still congested, even though it’s been about a week now. And now I’m sick.

Luckily she’s improving, but it was emotionally tough. We can only do what we can do though. Hopefully, she won’t be sick again for a while.

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Black Authors Book Reviews

Sister Friends Forever by Kimberla Lawson Roby

Synopsis

This book explores the lives of four friends Kenya, Serena, Michelle, and Lynette. They met when they were young in church and have been friends for forty plus years. They are each going through their own issues in their love lives. Serena finds out her boyfriend is cheating on her and wills for the day she finds someone. Michelle has ran into an old flame and isn’t sure if she wants to marry her fiancé. Lynette, who is divorced from her cheating, lying husband, is rediscovering her dating life. Kenya and her husband are having issues with her husband’s ex wife, who won’t allow their son around Kenya. What could possibly happen?

My review

I got this book while looking for black protagonists and black authors. I saw the picture of friends in the front and was excited to dive into each of their lives. I finished the book, however I couldn’t wait to be done.

Although I love books with different narrators, I felt like this could’ve given more. Each storyline individually felt rushed because we’re exploring through four different people’s problems. There were only like three or four group scenes; the only thing that connected the stories was the fact they were friends with troubles connected to their live lives. I did enjoy the repertoire amongst them. It would’ve flowed better and maybe more detail would’ve been added if every character had their own book (or at least parts).

I felt like in some ways each friend were all kind of the same. Maybe that’s a testament to how close they were and why they are friends. Still none of them truly challenged each other or asked difficult questions for the better, evidenced by their dislike of Tim.

The book has a heavy message in a belief of God and celibacy until finding the one. It was a little distracting as someone who doesn’t believe in the Christian God and who thinks sex is a personal decision. Serena and Michelle make a pact of celibacy until marriage, but when Michelle breaks it, Serena is upset and disappointed, which I can understand in the sense a promise was broken. But also, it’s her life let it go.

Serena got closure and found a man she wanted to marry, even though he made less money. Lynette’a husband confessing his love to her didn’t really contribute anything. The man she’s dating turns out be committing fraud, so she ends up dating the other man she met at the same time. Kenya and her husband end up getting full custody of her husbands first child. His ex wife is diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Michelle and her ex fiancé coparent while she marries her old love against her parents approval.

The storyline I was most interested in was Michelle’s because I love a love triangle and I enjoy stories of old flames reconnecting.

Everything was a little one note in the book, but that is more because of my own personal beliefs and how God is such a central focus. I also felt as if everything ended too perfectly for each of them. That could also be due to my belief system that divorcing and sex and children outside of marriage is not that big of a deal.

All of them getting their happy endings around the same time with seemingly no consequences…nothing moved me. I love happy endings and when situations work out but it fell a little flat. Or maybe I’m a cynic.

It was a quick read. I rate it 2 out of 5 stars. I probably won’t touch it again. I would recommend it so I can talk about it with someone else, but I wouldn’t say it’s good or I liked it.

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Blog Updates

Thank you for everyone who is reading this and who has stopped to read any of my posts. It is nice to know my thoughts, opinions, and words can resonate with you.

My goal is to write and to post more, so I’m doing some mini changes, as you can see with the logo. I will also be expanding what my posts are about to include my reviews, opinions, synopsis, recaps, etc of books and television shows and movies. I will still be expressing my views on life, talking about parenthood, and speaking on anything that comes to mind.

Thanks for being on this journey with me!

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Black Authors Book Reviews Favorites

Get a life, Chloe Brown (The Brown Sisters, #1) by Talia Hibbert

Get A Life Chloe Brown

Synopsis

This book follows the life, or lack thereof, of a chronically ill Chloe Brown. She is in her mid twenties, and after her life literally flashes before her eyes, she decides she wants to live more. She creates a list of what she wants to accomplish, and crosses the first one off by moving out. Her superintendent, Redford, seems to hate her. She seems not to have a liking to him either. What could possibly happen?

My Review (with spoliers)

Reading this book, I had no knowledge of what it was about. It kept popping up on my For You page on TikTok. When looking for books with black protagonist that didn’t have race as the central focus, I kept seeing it. I bought it probably a year ago now and I can’t believe I waited so long to read it.

I loved this book, wholeheartedly. It made me smile, made me cry, made me hot, and made me blush. Even though Chloe and I live in different countries, (the story is set in England), and we live with different diseases, I related to her more than I have any character.

The way this story talks about chronic pain and anxiety, which Redford experiences, is pretty on point with what it is like to live with them both, at least for me. The book breaks down what it is to put our projections and insecurities onto other people. It shows that things may not be the way they seem and first impressions are only a piece of who someone is and what they are like. It shows you never really know what people are going through. It also does an amazing job of switching between narrators, going back and forth between Red and Chloe, throughout the book.

Chloe and Red’s story is a classic enemies to lovers trope. It is also a love story between differing classes-no one is stopping them from being together, but Red often feels she’s being snobbish and judgey because she comes from wealth. They’re not exactly enemies, but they both started off not liking the other because they thought the other one didn’t like them. Their relationship is full of banter, lust, and a genuine understanding of each other. They have both been through traumatic experiences and put a pause on what they wanted to experience out of life in order to process and heal (and to avoid vulnerability).

This book contains some steamy moments written in detail. After Red’s masterbation scene, the sexual content comes in thick.

The ending is a little rushed. As expected, they get into a fight, however the reason behind it is on brand for both of their personalities. Red overhears meaningless sex being on her list, which hurts because he recently admits to himself that he loves her. He begins to feel like his ex made him feel- unimportant and as if he is being used. In Chloe’s case, he feels like he is only around to cross items off her list.

He also overhears that he has been added separately onto the list and it confirms his assumption in his eyes. He tries to remember that Chloe isn’t like his ex. He knows how he is feeling doesn’t make sense. Chloe even assures him his being in the list is a good thing. But in the midst of his anxiety attack, he doesn’t hear her and he leaves, which is a trigger for Chloe, who has had friends and a fiancé leave her.

The scene honestly made me really sad. At first, I was upset at his jumping to conclusions. Then I remembered that anxiety makes things that you know aren’t true make sense. It takes you out of reality. He was in an abusive relationship and has PTSD from that. His outburst was understandable. Her shutting him away for leaving easily, wasn’t right either, but was understandable. They both triggered each other. Their reconciliation is in the last couple of pages. It’s sweet. It showed he enjoyed learning about her.

Overall, this book was great. It was an easy read. It flowed beautifully. I wanted to know what would happen next and when they would finally get together. It was a slow burn and I was happy to experience it. I don’t often read books again, but I would read this one again. I 100% recommend.

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End of The Year

Creating Goals for 2023

Every year I talk about the lessons from the year, but I rarely if ever write about what I want out of next year and how to make goals for yourself.

Something I learned this year from a few different people off Tik Tok, is that we can’t go straight to climbing Mount Everest. We have to start small and take baby steps in order to stay consistent and achieve the climb. For some people, consistency looks different every day as well. The goal may be achieved but the way it is done is different than the day before. Our goals have to be realistic to ourselves and our lifestyles.

I’m impatient, so consistency and baby steps are hard for me. This year was proof though that completing parts of something or doing it here and there is better than nothing at all. This year I got closer to my salary goals by increasing my pay rate through each job. I started exercising again, averaging twice a week- even though that wasn’t my original goal. I attended a music event and left the state once, which I though wasn’t going to happen at all. I’ve spent some time with friends both with and without my daughter. I stopped journaling and couldn’t pick up meditating, which are two things I wanted to be consistent with. I also didn’t read as many books as I hoped to, nor have I written as much.

Next year, my goals will build upon the goals I set for last year. Some will need some tweaking to be achievable. Some goals will be new. I like to have to goals for different areas of my life. It is also something my life coach/therapist has encouraged me to do. Making goals in this way makes you make certain aspects of your life a priority. I was tasked with making goals for myself, for my career, and for my daughter. What areas of your life are you focusing on?

If you want to make resolutions for the new year, but have trouble with where to begin, you can start by looking at the big picture. For example, I have goals of making writing a bigger priority. After having this thought, to make it achievable, I need to break it down into smaller tasks. I can do this by posting more. You also need to be specific. How often is more? I can do this by posting once a week. The idea is daunting since I rarely post once a month. So maybe I change it to twice a month on the same day at the same time. This is a baby step, and once I can do this, I can up the stakes to make it a weekly task.

Being specific, being realistic, and taking action is key to achieving your goals and New Year resolutions. This falls in line with manifestation. To manifest anything, you have to be specific enough about what you’re looking for, really believe you can have it, and make steps for making it possible. You cannot meet someone new if you don’t put yourself out there or open yourself up to receive it. You cannot read note if you don’t pick up a book.

2023 feels like it’s going to be a great year. I hope it will be for me and you. Let’s work on making 2023 a great year.