Hello! It’s been a couple months; I’ve been too busy to write and proofread, etc but since it’s summer, I have a little more time on my hands I’ll be posting as long as I got something to say. You haven’t seen the last of me yet.
But since we’re on the topic of busyness, and this is the trend right about now, let me just say my unpopular opinion. I don’t 100% agree that you can make time for everything and every person you love the way I used to. I agree with it on some degree because neglecting the activities and people you love will cause a strain. That’s what happens when there’s distance. Eventually you have to shave in some time. But I would also like to point out, there is only 24 hours in a day.
About three to nine hours of that goes towards sleep, about four to nine hours goes towards making money, which is a total seven to eighteen hours of your day gone depending on your lifestyle. Then there’s the extra stuff: the errands, the classes, the volunteering, internships, the other job(s), your responsibilities at home, etc. And on top of all of that, you also have to take into account the availability of the other people involved; everyone knows how frustrating conflicting schedules are. Of course people make time for the things they want, but it’s unfair and such a huge pet peeve of mine, when people say “If you really wanted xyz that bad then you’d make time for it.”
I’m not saying they’re completely wrong, but nothing is that basic. People are constantly prioritizing what they do and who they spend time with whether actively or not. Just because you aren’t their top priority at the moment you want to be one doesn’t mean you aren’t a priority. Just because you haven’t gotten to a certain project by a certain timeline doesn’t mean it’s not a priority. There’s only so much people can balance in a day and it’s different person by person. Just because you think you can do it all or make the time doesn’t mean someone else can. Don’t let people guilt you for being busy or convince you that you don’t care about something because of where your priorities lie.